Shame can haunt us due to a variety of reasons. Perhaps our family upbringing involved us wearing worn out hand me downs and it was embarrassing. Perhaps our family had few social skills and that was embarrassing.
These things can mean that there are times in later life when we still feel ashamed.
There is healing in sharing our shame with others. A person who lessens our shame will:
See beyond the shameful circumstance to our inner person,
Understand the humiliation and pain associated with our shame,
Take steps to alleviate the pain and protect us from humiliation,
Be available and be in a position to help cover or replace some of the things that cause shame or the fear of exposure.
This person will love us enough to help you see yourself in a new light.