Every once in a while, life deeply hurts.
In my work I see all types of devastation. Whether brought on by oneself or at the hands of others, life is not simple and it takes courage and faith to continue.
Fixing one's eyes on what lies ahead as written in Proverbs 4:25, can hold little inspiration as the pain of today seems intolerable. Telling one to forgive in these times only adds to pain and we need to remember that forgiveness in some situations is a journey and a process.
To guard one's heart though can and should be done.
Whether we are responsible or not for our pain, God has given us the capacity to guard our heart. We may be hurting, and there are times when we should dwell on our situation and allow ourselves to grieve. In these times we can repent and reevaluate and determine to make certain changes.
However this needs to be accompanied by the decision to guard one's heart. When we catch ourselves going into the victim mode or revenge mode, we decide to stop these thoughts and push into forgiveness. If too difficult, we can know that God is gracious and has seen all, across all time. Our situation does not shock Him.
Other keys can be a list of profitable Scriptures. These need to be kept in a place where our eyes often venture.
Sometimes a to do list is profitable. This list should contain tasks that are not overwhelming but give us some structure for each day.
Working is definitely empowering. God created Adam and Eve and set them to work in the garden.
Talking with others that are empathetic, but will not allow you to wallow in self pity, is crucial.
The good and bad in life will shape us and difficult times are not an end.